Making decisions often stresses me out. I over-analyze, over-empathize, and turn every outcome into an exaggeration. Recently, I had to make a tough decision, and I realized my indecision often stems from being influenced by the wrong things.
Here are five things I’ve learned about decision-making. It may not make your decision easier, but I pray it does provide more peace in the process. No matter what, take comfort knowing that sometimes the best decisions are the ones that are the most challenging.
- You can please people, or you can please God. Most of the time, we know what we should do, but the fear of letting other people down keeps us from following God’s plan for our lives. Don’t buy into the lie that people’s feelings matter more than being faithful to God.
- God will not shout the answer from Heaven. Finding the answers is just as much about finding your faith. So often, I get caught up in asking for a sign about what I’m supposed to do. But faith is rooted in uncertainty. By not providing us answers, God invites us to hear from Him daily. And daily devotion is better than on-demand direction.
- Jesus uses imperfect people to direct his perfect plan. Sometimes, God speaks through people in our lives, and it’s important to note that just because you don’t like the person God uses, you shouldn’t reject their advice. When we make decisions, we shouldn’t always consult the people who will tell us what we want to hear.
- Sometimes there isn’t a right or wrong answer. Often, we choose between two good things. God can work through us either way as long as we are allowing Him to work in us first. Following God isn’t so much about where we go as much as it’s about who we are.
- You’re not that important. Sometimes we agonize about decisions based on other people’s opinions, other people’s reactions or other people’s happiness. We have to remember, though, that we are not that important. A decision we make has the potential to influence people, but it doesn’t destroy people. The people we get so worried about upsetting don’t think about us nearly as often as we imagine. And when we realize this life is not about us, it frees us to live a life that truly glorifies our Creator.